Is it better to have loved and lost or to have never loved at all?
Today I was listening to NPR about a social experiment done where the experimenter found a relatively unknown band and brought in 35 fellow experimenters to attend their small concert and go crazy. All 35 of them memorized the band’s songs and each experimenter took on their own roles as actors to create chaos and excitement at the venue. The band was expecting nobody to show up to their show and then suddenly there are 38 people, (3 of which were actual paying customers.) After this experiment was done, there was backlash from the community saying that this is cruel to do and making them believe that this was real was malicious.
This brought me to the thought of the age old question: Is it better to have loved and lost or to have never loved at all? In the example, the bands experienced love and then lost it, but it seems most of the community felt they would have been better off to have never experienced that feeling of love at all. There are definitely purposeful points on both ends and I personally believe that it is better to have loved and lost.
Everyone that has ever been in love knows that losing that love is one of the most painful things they go through. They’ve also known that even though it felt like the end of the world, at some point they realized that was not the case. Somehow, life goes on. By having that love and losing it, you also gain a greater understanding of what love is and more importantly, a greater understanding of what it is you are looking for. If you had never experienced love at all, you cannot draw from personal experiences, only hearsay. If you were talking to two people, one of whom has personally trekked to top the mount Everest and another who had read every…single…book in the existence of mankind on Mount Everest. Who would you give more credibility to? This is the same as everything in life, success and failure. Failure is only a failure when you stop and make it so. If you keep moving forward and learn from your blunders, you have just evolved and become a better version of yourself. Keep evolving.
“It is not what we do in life that we regret, it is what we do not.”